Episode 23: Should You Start Abstaining from Sex?

Today’s topic was actually suggested by a listener. If you grew up in a religious household, there was a huge influence to keep your virginity until you get married. Well, so many people these days have thought those teaching out the window! We both did.

In recent times, as people are working hard to figure out self-love, we’ve heard of more females that are deciding to refrain from sex while discovering themselves. We’ve also heard of males that abstain from sex while building business to keep from distractions. Lastly, we’ve heard of couples intentionally going weeks or months without sex in order to deepen the connection between them. Is this really necessary or does abstaining from sex for a period of time actually help to achieve better long-term results?

Mel currently is unintentionally abstaining from sex because she’s struggling to feel like she deserves it. While juggling a career and a family, Mel has a hard time trying to figure out how to rekindle the romance in her marriage. We wonder if during this time, is it possible for her and her husband to find other ways of intimacy?

Danielle decided that while she’s working on loving herself more, she’s going to wait to have sex again until she’s in a committed relationship. Now that she has more of an idea of what she wants in a partner, she feels that waiting is a better option for her at this moment. She admits that she can get lonely at times, but she believes that when the right person comes along, it will be well worth the wait.

If you’ve been thinking about taking a break from sex to figure yourself out better, this episode is for you.